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The Human Body is Energy

The human body is just energy…

When you look at your hand you are looking at energy. Emotions are energy too. When you experience an intense emotion, whether it’s anger, resentment, grief – any emotion – the energy of that emotion can sometimes become stuck in your body. They are actually little balls of energy that can disrupt the normal energy field of your body, causing it to be out of balance.

The human body has a truly incredible ability to bounce back and heal itself from all kinds of stress, trauma and sickness. This ability depends upon our bodies being in balance. If our body is out of balance, this self-healing does not take place as well as it should, allowing problems to build up over time.

The Body Code is a state of the art healing technique that addresses these imbalances by allowing your subconscious mind, which is the ultra intelligent computer system of the body, to guide your Body Code practitioner to the imbalances and clear them, allowing the body to go back into balance and heal itself.

This process has helped thousands of people create a profound shift in their emotional and physical well being, enabling them to go on and find success in all areas of their life.

Since July of 2016, I have been undergoing ongoing treatment for breast
cancer that includes heavy forms of chemotherapy. The infusions and pills
have really taken a toll on my body, mind, and spirit. That was an easy
thing to see within the first session I had with Meredith. When we started in May of 2017, there were so many trapped emotions
related to my physical ailments, it was an incredible thing to learn! She
gently guided me to release ominous amounts of energies, allowing many
of my ailments to be put at ease. We continue our sessions, including one
just last week when she was able to release a multitude of energies
surrounding a cold I had contracted. Since then, I’ve been feeling much better!
She has been a true blessing in my life and I completely appreciate the
sessions…From the bottom of my heart – Thank You, Meredith, for all
you have done and for your love and support throughout this difficult time,
I am forever grateful!!

– Courtney

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Caught Off Guard at the Library

As I walked to my car from the library I kept asking myself “How could she even THINK that?”  I felt like I had just been accused of stealing a CD from an audio book!

I took a few minutes to reflect on what had just happened.  I had walked inside the library to return an audio book that was missing the 3rd CD.  I guess I expected I would be thanked for taking the time to do this when I could have just tossed it in the outside drop off box without notifying them the set was incomplete.  After all, if I were the librarian I would have thanked me!

Instead, the librarian took the set, said nothing, flipped through all the CD’s twice, walked to the phone, picked it up and made a call.  She explained the situation to the person on the line, hung up, handed me the case and very firmly stated “You will have to return it to our sister library in _______ as it’s their book and you will have to DEAL with them.”

I politely asked what did she mean by “Deal with them?”

“It’s out of my hands!” she exclaimed as she backed up with her hands raised as if to protect herself.  (I started to wonder if she thought I was going to deck her???? – anyone who knows me well would laugh at that one!)

I asked, “I understand you can’t make their decision but could you explain the policy regarding returning an incomplete set?  Am I expected to pay for it?”

“You’ll have to ask them”, she responded and turned to help someone else.

I had been dismissed!  No problem.  But as I left I started to feel as if I had been tried and convicted of pilfering CD #3 from the audio book!  Kind of crazy but still a bit unpleasant.

“What just happened here?” I asked myself again.  The answer was soon very obvious!  I – the expert in human behavior and Personality Styles – had just been blindsided by a Personality Style clash.  I had expected kind customer service and a thank you.  What I got instead was a focused, task-oriented, by-the-rules, Cautious C Personality Style who simply did her job.  She addressed the situation quickly and calmly and got to the next person in line.

Was she warm?  NO!

Was she required to be warm?  Guess not.

Did she deliver her message in a typical C monotone without emotion or thought of how her message would be received?  Yes.

Did I overreact with typical I/S sensitivity?  HECK YEAH!!

Does this difference in Personalities happen often?  All the time.  I’m rarely caught in the emotional turmoil of it, but for some reason, this time it kicked me in my happy bubble.

When I arrived at the other branch the kind, smiling librarian expressed her appreciation of the time I took to return the book to them.  She indicated they probably had CD #3 in the back and thanked me for taking the time to point out that the set was incomplete.  That was it….no charge, just a thank you.  Expectation and reality had synced.  My day was redeemed!

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Opposites Attract!!

Opposites Attract!!

Everyone has natural strengths and weaknesses.  We can easily be drawn to a “strength” someone else exhibits that we consider a “weakness” in ourselves.  This often happens with business partners and in personal relationships.  At seminars where we divide the entire group into their Personality Styles, partners and spouses are frequently in Opposite categories.

Think about it – if I am disorganized I would benefit by having a partner with a natural ability to avoid chaos.  If I’m shy around strangers, I would be drawn to someone who immediately made me feel comfortable and helped me lighten up and have fun.

Look at the DISC opposites:

The D and the S……a decisive D, who loves the challenge of conquering the world can easily be drawn to the very supportive S, who is a natural team player.  The S, who is slower paced, more reserved, and often indecisive can be very attracted to the energy and decisiveness of the D.  The D and the S are potentially a great combination for a business partnership.

The I and the C…..the charismatic I is all about interacting with people.  “Where are we going and let’s have a great time when we get there!” could be their motto.  The C, who is often shy with new people, finds they come out of their shell when interacting with an I.  The I, who can tend to procrastinate about details and organization is “set free” when partnered with a C who loves to tackle processes and procedures.  When combined, the strengths of the I and the C can make a very strong team in business.

Here’s the challenge…..over time, the strengths that were the attraction can truly become a huge irritation!!  They can also grow the thorn that ends the relationship.  It is critical for the longevity of a business partnership and a marriage that both partners understand and embrace the strengths AND the weaknesses they each bring to the table.

Check the blogs under “Opposites Attract!” for some real-life stories and for the Strengths and Weaknesses of each Personality Type.

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The D and S Attraction

I have friends who are the perfect D / S combination.  They’ve have been very happily married for over 30 years with the exception of year #26 when they came close to a divorce.  You would think that after 25 years of bliss they would have understood each other well enough to handle any challenge, but when Personality Style opposites start behaving in “Weakness Mode” disasters can happen.  This is their story……

To hear Christopher and Jodi tell it they had no choice, it was love at first sight.  He is a determined D with exciting goals and lots of self-confidence and enthusiasm.  She is a very sweet  S who believed in him instantly and wanted to be there and help him gain his success.

They graduated from college, married, and Chris entered the corporate world on the fast track to upper level management while Jodi taught elementary school.  His specialty quickly became innovation and change.  His D Personality Style thrived in the challenging, fast-paced, decision-making environment.  When they started their family Jodi happily morphed from teaching to executive wife, loving every minute of taking care of the kids, supporting Chris, and volunteering in the community.

23 years into his career, the owner sold the company.  During the transition to new ownership, upper level management was replaced.  Chris was suddenly without a job.  He considered retiring, but knew at age 45 he wasn’t ready.  He was heavily recruited by several companies but none of them had a position that excited him.  He considered consulting but that didn’t entice him either.  One night one of his friends persuaded him to attend a network marketing meeting.  The guest speaker had achieved financial independence working with the company.  Chris came out of there certain that he could do better and he could do it faster than the speaker.

Within 18 months he was shattering performance records.  His D Style was a natural for the industry.  He pulled the best out of people and pushed them to attain the success they wanted.  He made things happen through innovation and plain old hard work.  His motivation was at it’s peak as he was in control, making choices and being challenged.

Jodi was in the support role she loved and this time it was even more exciting for her because she had more of a hands on role.  She could see things Chris didn’t notice: who deserved recognition, who needed help, who was struggling with confidence, etc.  Their awesome relationship became even better as they worked together with their team.

I hadn’t seen them for about 6 months so imagine my shock when Jodi confided that she and Chris were having horrible problems.  “He’s no longer the man I married”, she said.  “He’s become restless and extremely insensitive.  The least thing can set him into an angry tirade and his filter has disappeared to the point that he’s abrupt and rude in a professional environment.   He’s even sarcastic and impatient with the kids and that’s never happened before.”

She also said she didn’t like who she was becoming.  “We used to be great at communication but now I’m biting my lip all the time to avoid an argument.  His actions are painful but rather than telling him, I find I’m hiding my anger to avoid an argument and then I’m dwelling on it later.  After so many wonderful years I honestly don’t know what to do!”

I asked her if there was a problem with the business.  She laughed and said no way!  Chris had developed a system that virtually ran itself.

I asked if there were any other challenges or new ideas he was tackling.  She said no, everything was running on autopilot.

I suggested to Jodi that while autopilot in her world was perfect, for Chris it could be his worst nightmare!

I reminded her of their personality differences.  I suggested for her S everything they had achieved (stability, security, status quo) made HER world perfect. Chris is a “play to win” D, an active mover and shaker:

  • He needs a challenge – at the moment he has none.
  • He needs to be making major decisions – he’s made them!
  • He needs to be in control of things – the system he created and the people he trained are doing that for him.

“Without challenge, choices and control Chris probably feels useless and that is something he is not used to feeling!  It appears to me that in this situation he’s restless and frustrated and as a result is operating in the weaker characteristics of his D Personality Style“.

“What do we do?  Start a new business?” Jody asked.

“Perhaps it can be a lot simpler”, I replied.  “Maybe he just needs a big project.  Didn’t you once talk about building your dream home in the South at the beach?”

“Yes, but that’s down the road when we’re planning to retire.”

“Why wait?”, I suggested.  “Do it now!”

“Are you crazy!  That would be impossible with our current schedules.  There is no time to plan the house and build it long distance.  It would be a disaster!”

“Jodi”, I said, “Let’s be honest.  WOULD IT BE A DISASTER FOR BOTH OF YOU or a disaster for ONLY YOU?”

She had to admit that while she hated the idea she knew Chris would probably love it and….he did!

The challenge put him right back into “D Strengths“.  He commuted back and forth overseeing the construction. While in their new city he started another team for their business.  He designed their new home with an office/meeting room wing for presentations. When the new home was complete he added a similar space to their northern home.

Chris and Jodi are once again happy as can be.  They’ve gained an understanding of each other’s Personality Style’s needs and they’ve created a relationship where their needs are being met.  They make sure his D has challenge and excitement as they maintain consistency for Jodi’s S  so she can thrive at doing what she most enjoys – supporting those she loves.

 

 

 

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Strengths of the D

D’s are Determined, Dominant “Doers”

When it comes to confidence the D is at the top of the list.  They can stay focused on a vision and move heaven and earth to make it happen – fast!  A D will demand a lot from you and they may push you to work at your best.  Keep in mind, they are expecting even more from themselves than they expect from you.  They are…..

DOMINANT…..

  • Very self-confident
  • Dynamic ability to lead
  • Will develop good qualities in others
  • Will delegate to get fast results
  • Direct communication, no “beating around the bush”
  • Needs to be in control and is willing to struggle for power and control

DETERMINED…..

  • Can thrive on conflict
  • Seldom takes no for an answer
  • Bottom-line oriented, focuses on big picture and end result
  • Inspires others through determination
  • Refuses to give up on goals

DOER…..

  • Thrives on movement and involvement
  • Decisive decision maker
  • Needs a challenge – good at solving problems
  • Very innovative and adaptable – can change direction quickly
  • Willing to take risks without hesitation
  • Quickly responds to problems and situations

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Strengths of the S

S’s are Supportive, Steady and Stable

An S finds it very difficult to say NO. They feel people do best when they are cooperative and supportive of each other. They will be there for you and want to know you will be there for them. They are happiest when YOU are happy.

SUPPORTIVE…..

  • Family-oriented, Team-oriented, Service-oriented
  • Bring out the best in people
  • Will make personal sacrifices to obtain best results
  • Tunes into what the group needs
  • Have an ability to put themselves in other’s situations which makes them very understanding
  • Takes orders well

STEADY….

  • You can depend on them and trust them to follow through
  • Not prone to emotional outbursts
  • Very calm, holds things together
  • Sees the lighter side of life with a subtle sense of humor
  • Looks for simple solutions
  • Very diplomatic, calm and polite

STABLE… 

  • Create stability through loyalty and dependability
  • Thinks and evaluates before speaking or acting
  • During difficult times will appear to be unshaken
  • Makes a great leader.  They patiently coach rather than dictate
  • Prefers routine, one task at a time, consistency and efficiency

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Weaknesses of the D

D’s can be Inconsiderate, Unyielding and Angry

D’s prefer to go at a very fast pace on THEIR agenda. They can easily forget the team concept or that they are under authority. During challenging moments their strengths may go too far and make them tough to deal with. They can become…..

INCONSIDERATE…..

  • Pushes rather than leads.  Exerts power when threatened
  • Unsympathetic, especially to other’s weaknesses
  • Can be blunt or offensive
  • Insensitive – will hurt without realizing it
  • Tendency to be emotional or unfeeling
  • Takes action without waiting for pertinent facts or permission – will seek forgiveness later

UNYIELDING…..

  • Will manipulate behind the scenes to get things done
  • May have a hidden agenda
  • If they decide they cannot get their way they may leave
  • Want to win at all costs even if they have to create their own rules to do so
  • Can easily become dictatorial

ANGRY…..

  • Can become hard and sarcastic
  • Do not like taking orders and can become rebellious
  • Can explode into anger quickly….they will get over their anger quickly while others may be left harboring resentment
  • When challenged becomes obstinate
  • Great difficulty being under authority or admitting a wrong

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Weaknesses of the S

S’s can be Fearful, Indecisive,
and Self-Protective

An S, who prefers stability and predictability, can become fearful of many things….unknown situations, conflict, being in the spotlight, humiliation, doing something wrong, losing the stability of their turf, surprises and loss of control.  Their Fears may make them appear to be Indecisive and Self-Protective.

FEARFUL…..

  • When they should say “No” they will say “Yes” to avoid conflict or disappointment
  • Resistant to change with no apparent reason
  • Hesitant to speak up if the comment will cause a difference of opinion
  • Will stay in a rut rather than make a change
  • May see suggestions or criticism as a threat

INDECISIVE…..

  • Prefer to know the outcome before starting, especially if the outcome will affect others
  • Appear to have a lack of motivation, they would rather do nothing than do something wrong
  • Hesitant to share information, can become possessive
  • Procrastinates, often related to making a decision
  • Can easily become an enabler

SELF-PROTECTIVE…..

  • Fear of being humiliated
  • When afraid of losing their security they may appear to be stingy
  • When protecting their own interest, may appear to be selfish
  • Will internalize and mask feelings
  • Needs an extended amount of time to build a new relationship

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The I and the C – A Success Story

One of the highest volume mortgage companies in a state I’ll leave unmentioned is owned by a mother/daughter team.  Kathleen, the Mom, is a very high C.   Angela, her daughter, is a very high I.  They have built their business by utilizing the strengths of their Personality Styles and by accepting and understanding each other’s differences.

Kathleen was widowed at the age of 25 when Angela was 7.  Her husband was a contractor.  They owned a nice home and had done fairly well for their age.  Like most young couples they hadn’t gotten around to any serious financial planning so Kathleen had enough money from a small life insurance policy to get through the next 6 months.  She went to her local family-owned bank to get some advice from the owner.  He offered her a job as a loan processor and she jumped at it.

Over the next year Kathleen mastered the position.  The job was perfect for her Type C Strengths.  Loan processing suited her analytical nature, systematic approach to issues, objective ability to assess facts, love of time schedules, and her ability to be happy working alone.

When she was promoted to loan officer, Kathleen’s reserved nature had her a bit tentative about dealing with the bank’s customers.  Her stomach was in knots the first few weeks but she gradually found her confidence as her C Personality skill of being an evaluative listener found its footing.  She got all the facts she needed at the first interview, never overpromised what she could accomplish and quickly earned a reputation for being honest and fair.  As her reputation grew, her income increased and she and Angela were able to afford a comfortable lifestyle.

Many people said Kathleen spoiled Angela.  She would retort that Angela “Was the spitting image of her Daddy and I find it impossible to tell that girl no!”  In spite of it, Angela was a great kid.  Like her Dad, she had a high I Personality….she was carefree, adventurous and optimistic and very popular and involved both in high school and at college.

Angela majored in marketing in college.  When she was home for the summer after her junior year she questioned her Mom about never participating in the mortgage industry events….fashion shows, Chamber meetings, casino nights, etc.  Kathleen’s response was, “I’ve never enjoyed big groups of people and parties” (which is often typical of the C Personality).  “I’ve been able to grow my business with referrals from satisfied customers instead and that’s brought in all the business we’ve needed.”

At Angela’s pleading that it would be fun, Kathleen reluctantly agreed to schedule them into a few upcoming events.  Angela was a huge hit at every event.  Her I Personality Strengths of enthusiasm, acceptance of others, and her positive sense of humor were natural magnets.  When she was asked to help on a few committees, Kathleen told her to go for it.  Within a few weeks Kathleen had several mortgage orders from sources who had never before used her services for their clients.  By the end of the summer, Kathleen’s business was moving to a higher level thanks to Angela’s participation.

When Angela came home for Thanksgiving break, she and Kathleen started tossing around the idea of Kathleen leaving the bank so the two of them could open a mortgage business.  They made a list of everything involved in operating the business and to their surprise and delight the list was easily cut down the middle.  Kathleen preferred to tackle the processing, accounting, licensing, audits and other detailed tasks.  Angela wanted to handle everything involving client contact, prospecting and networking.  By spring break they had a solid plan.  They celebrated Angela’s graduation by hanging the sign at their new business.

Kathleen’s C Strengths have kept their business “lean and mean” for several decades.  Where many mortgage businesses add on processors as their volume increases – requiring a larger space and more expense – Kathleen decided to tap into the talent of the loan processors who had left the bank to raise their families.  Many of them were thrilled to handle contract processing from home on a part-time basis.  She instituted many creative ideas to keep the business lean and profitable.  She and Angela have chosen to keep their small space even though they could afford a huge, luxurious office.

Over the years Kathleen and Angela have stayed with their division of duties.  They have learned each other’s jobs for emergencies sake, but normally they stay in their individual Personality Strengths to utilize their talents.  They both love what they do and their huge customer base is dedicated and loyal.  Their fees are fair, their reputation is to be envied and over the course of the last 20 years they have both become very wealthy women.

The I and C Personality combination is fantastic when both parties can appreciate each other’s differences.  Working in each person’s strengths requires understanding and communication from both sides but it is so worth it!  If you are a business owner and struggling to handle things you don’t like, find your “Opposite”, structure the duties to suit each of your strengths, and work together to attain more success than you would ever accomplish on your own!

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